Erotic Session Guidelines

If you already have played TTRPG system with the premise of having sexual sessions, there are nothing in particular that need to be said.

If you have no experience in sexual sessions, and read about this system out of curiosity, you should play with a normal session first, with some suggestive scenes in-between. If you find those scenes lacking, then you might be suited for sexual sessions.

I would like you to make a leap of faith.

That said, a sexual session is not one without laws or rules.

The following points are something you should keep in mind.

= Adult's Game = For a sexual session to be enjoyable, a sufficient mental maturity is required.

Not for the characters. But for GM and players.

It should not be done out of sheer curiosity.

If you want to play a sexual session, your enjoyment cannot be guaranteed if you do not have a clear will and goal. If you still want to play it, it might be better to try short, freeform ERP first, before deciding to use this system as a different kind of fun.

If you play only online TTRPG sessions on a regular basis, you might want to limit yourself to a light suggestive chuckle.

= ERP ≠ Sex = ERP is not sex.

It should not be seen as the same as sexting.

Sexual session is not a means to get laid.

Let's enjoy ERP as a result of playing out the session, with a complete separation between participants and their characters.

The relationship and action between characters is not to be carried to the human relationship between GM and players alike.

If you feel that ERP cannot be done without seeing the partner player (or GM) as a target for sex, then you are ultimately not suited for sexual session.

Instead of playing games like this, spending your effort and action towards a fulfilling love and sex life in reality would be healthier and more beneficial for you.

Bringing real life relationships into TTRPG and causing troubles is bad manner.

This does not only apply to sexual sessions.

= Fantasticality = Characters in a sexual session are fundamentally fantastic (unreal) beings. No matter how grounded the characters are, they are not real human beings.

The world that serves as their stage is also significantly different from our own.

More so than not being real, their physiology and values are also different.

They are probably, fundamentally something not human.

As they are not beings in real life, unless all participants wish so, there is no need to force them to confine to actual laws of nature.

Therefore, unless all participants share the consensus that they prefer a more grounded sexual depiction, they will more or less have fantastical elements in it. There will be excessive descriptions that does not conform to what is considered possible in modern medicine. Basically, participants should be lenient and accept each other's ERP.

You should understand the difference between sexual knowledge and sexual fantasy.

It is a grave mistake to educate people about the "right" way to portray certain things. If you do not like your partner's sexual depiction... then it is relevant to consensus (see later section). It is better for you to discuss and reach a common ground.

Of course, for things that are sexual trauma on a personal level, or matters that cannot be negotiated, others should be informed of it.

It is preferable if you think about it calmly.

In reality, things like the uterus lowering and cervix gurgling due to sexual stimuli, cum making the belly swelling, cumming in an impossible amount, virgins being able to get it on, being able to orgasm at the same time as your partner, middle-aged people and older can cum dozens of times every day, anal sex being done immediately without enema or lubricant, fucking mammary glands and urethra without causing tears, not chafing or dislocating hip joints from continuous sex, aphrodisiac having no side effects, uterus and rectum prolapsing without issues, pleasure coming from giving birth, and other biological impossibilities... those are not going to happen!

These are all a kind of "aesthetics", something that is made enjoyable as a fantasy.

It is better to be self-aware while not debasing it, and enjoy sexual entertainment for what it is. What is understood to be functional sexual knowledge is not to be brought to reality.

= Let Your Partner Have Fun = In roleplaying, there is always a partner.

The same is especially true for ERP.

If you want to do it alone, it is better to write web fictions.

You should be mindful in observing what your partner wants in ERP, and play it out accordingly.

Of course, you cannot suddenly understand what your partner wants, or be able to read their ideas between the lines.

That is why consensus is important.

You should grasp what your partner want, as well as what you want.

You should roleplay with reactions, advances and situations that both of you wants in mind. Of course, it is fine to push for your own desire when the opportunity presents itself.

You should make it clear when your partner begins to stray from what you prefer.

When you interact with each other enough times, you will begin to be able to read each other's preferences. Moreover, you might be able to discover sexual preference that you did not know you have.

Sexual depiction is the kind of depiction that is divided by personal preference the most.

There are many cases where a depiction that someone found spectacular feel nothing but disgust.

The subtleties of niche preference cannot be described no matter how many words you use. Even with predetermined consensus, variance in sexual values can still happen.

Even if the situation itself is fine, it is possible that specific words or (what one side might consider) minor action turns out problematic.

Such extremely fine problems are not something onlookers could understand.

Sometimes the boundary is not something even the player in question is aware of.

In such case, it is better to mention everything that you wish to remove, oor quickly end the problematic scene and move on.

One of the reasons that the suggested number of player is 1, is that it will make such adjustment easier.

While I touched upon several points of concern, roleplaying is about creative entertainment. Even for roleplay like ERP, it is to provide the more direct sensation towards participants.

You should extend your ability to express through challenge, and also take inspirations from your partner's ERP. In that way, you can improve upon your next ERP, and make it more enjoyable for your partner. Analyze calmly and improve yourself while having fun.

You should always read carefully what your partner depict and how they react, so that you can keep their desires in mind. At the same time, you should express your own preference so that your partner can entertain you as well.

With such consideration, your ability to be considerate to others will improve as well.

It is also important to make your writing simply easy to read and understand. By keeping that in mind, your writing skill will improve as well.

Online ERP is actually a rather fulfilling creative activity with readers before your eyes.

Due to the delicate nature of this genre, ERP with consideration to others can be considered close to being a professional field. There is no greater luxury than being able to match each other with professional level depictions.

You should entertain each other by not just serving unilaterally, but compare and refine each other's writing and description skills.

= Expanding on Substance = There are cases where even though ERP continues, the extent of situation and expression becomes stagnant and boring.

Playing with the same partner, with stable preference, and repeating the same kinks over and over, can make one feel stuck in a rut.

In order to avoid this, it is necessary to constantly think of new expressions and maintain the spirit of expanding into new genres.

While it is better to avoid genres you found disgusting and incomprehensible, you should try to dip your toe in ones that are "pretty close to what you like". By gaining new sexual preference, your own extent of fetish will expand as well.

In addition, you should pay attention in avoiding using the same pattern in onomatopoeia, metaphor, expression and flow. While it is not necessary to change every time, it is better to remember to keep changing the way to depict things ever slightly.

Revisiting past session log every now and then to gain an objective view on you and other participants' writing is also effective.

Sense and lexicon is not a talent.

It is something that can develop when efforts are put into refining it.

You should take in the various ways manga, novel, games, and other media depict sexual contents. This is not only limited to sexual expression, and by consciously exposing yourself to various contents, you will be able to equip yourself with the myriad of descriptive skills forerunners left behind.

It is fine to mimic at first.

In the midst of mimicry, original depiction will born, and your world will expand. By that time, you will have become a respectable writer yourself (at least when writing erotica).

= Give and Take = ERP with partner is a continuous process of give and take.

After you are used to roleplay and is able to enjoy together based on mutual understanding, it will be followed by introducing your partner to your own preference.

Humans are ever vulnerable to change.

Draw your partner slightly out of actions they consider their comfort zone, while still remaining within their area of acceptance. Try to encourage them the idea that you two actually share similar preferences.

You should not say "I want X since I like it" directly. In addition, if that request is rejected, you should not try to force it further.

You should not force your values onto others.

Instead, you should broaden your partners' view and influence them with your preference.

You should slowly trickle what you want in your writing. That way, your partner will be able to accept it at their own pace.

Even if they accept it, you should not make use of only this one flavor. In addition, you should only introduce your preference to others within their allowed limits.

Unless it is desired so, it should not become a pattern.

Give and take is a bilateral human relationship.

There are cases where your preference is changed by your partner.

It is preferable to have both you and your partner enjoy yourselves as you change.

Similarly, you can also find enjoyment in normal love and seduction in a similar aspect as sexual roleplay. Of course, you should be aware not to bring that into real life interpersonal relationships.

The thing being refined is your ability to interact with others and to write. It does not mean your relationship with your partner will develop.